Romance - The Secret Key
Now forget everything you've read in books, everything you've seen
on the silver screen, every love song you've ever heard. Good . . .
now you're in a more open state of mind. We have to shake the profound
programming that goes on throughout our lives that tells us what romance
is all about. I certainly don't have the answer, but I believe I can share
some insights that will assist you. Now let's move on to some commonly held
illusions about romance and marriage:
1. An incredible sex life is key to marriage.
2. Marriage should not be difficult. It should not be filled with
conflict. It should be happy all the time.
3. I have to get married before age . . .
4. Love and lust are the same.
5. One must find their one-and-only soul mate.
6. Infatuation means something important.
7. Falling in love is important.
8. Falling out of love means it's over.
9. You must live together before getting married.
10. You must not live together before getting married.
I believe that an Eastern view of marriage dramatically helps reframe
what marriage is all about. From an Eastern spiritual standpoint, the purpose
of marriage (and there is a purpose) is to help husband and wife to chip away
at their own egos, their rough edges, so that eventually two can truly be as
one. To be one, and yet be independent beings, is no small task. When you
realize that the conflicts in marriage are merely expressions of one's own ego
coming to the surface, then you have much greater hope and a perspective to
help you through the hard times. How can we achieve unity as couples until
we deal with our own issues of anger, greed, envy, jealousy. From a spiritual
standpoint the purpose of marriage is to Go find God together... to be as
one together, to assist each other, rather than blame each other. These rough
edges are not bad. They're good . . . as long as you don't fall into blame. Your
anger, your envy, and your jealousy are not caused by your partner. They are
merely brought to the surface by your partner. Like sandpaper, marriage
sands away the rough edges.
Now back to the first fallacy of marriage. Sex is highly over-rated in
America. We're obsessed with it. I'm not saying sex is bad. I think the
Europeans have a more relaxed attitude toward sexuality. In the context of
marriage, sex is about communication. It's another way of two becoming one.
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