Romance - The Secret Key
Now let's look at a couple of techniques to help you with romance:
1. Check out Imagery #13 on Prosperity and Abundance. Use that
imagery to help you become more open to the possibilities that many of us
unconsciously wall off from ourselves.
2. Examine any resistance you may have to romance and marriage. How much of
you wants romance and marriage? 100 percent? 90 percent? 50 percent?
Get in touch with that part of yourself that is not fully committed to
romance or marriage - that 5, 10, 25, 50 percent of yourself. Allow an image
to emerge from your unconscious mind that represents that resistance to
romance and marriage.
Once you have seen, heard, touched that image of resistance, you will
immediately have more information about how to proceed and about what
obstacles you may be putting in your own way. For example, when I asked
one patient of mine to get in touch with whatever was her resistance to
romance, she immediately saw and felt her elbows being pulled back
into the chair as if drawn by ropes. She then had to work with those ropes in her
mind.
You'll want to talk with that image of resistance. Give it a voice. Ask it
what it wants and needs from you. Ask it if it is afraid of anything.
3. If you have a strong spiritual orientation, try out this prayer:
"Dear Lord, I want a wife (or husband). I surrender this wish to You,
knowing that only You know who is right for me. I surrender all my ideas
about what he or she should look like, act like, etc. What do I know? I hope
she's not ugly, but if that is Your Will, then I surrender to that. Please guide
me in finding the Divinely-chosen partner. Help me put my ego aside so that
You can easily guide me. Let my eyes be open so I can recognize Your Will."
So if you really want a marriage that works, open yourself to the
possibilities of abundance, examine your resistance to love and marriage,
pray. Forget everything Hollywood ever sold you and told you about
romance. They're selling for money, not for truth. Try to let God into the
equation as far as you possibly can. Marriage is a sacred bond, a vow before
God . . . and finding your partner will be a Divine experience if You surrender
your programmed ideas about marriage and let the Supreme Will help you.
If you don't like the word God, substitute the word Love (with all the
highest meaning you can give that word). Let Love be your guide.
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